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And so, she just started typing. As if she was trying to dig herself out of some hole that was filled with words, perhaps that she never said but had always wished she could. She typed and dug and typed and dug as if letter by letter, word by word she would finally uncover who she was—why she was . . . 

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Tulips & Clockwork

posted Feb 14, 2019, 10:22 AM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Feb 14, 2019, 10:32 AM ]

Not everybody is a fan of Valentine's Day, but I have an affinity for flowers and chocolate, bubbly drinks and poetry. Also, it's a good excuse to tell people I care about that I care about them, that I'm thinking of them, that I appreciate what they're trying to do in life. That means, for me, anybody from kids to teachers to mothers to friends could be the intended target depending on the day, the mood, the time. So, that's how I see today: a good reminder to try to do one or two random acts of kindness to tell someone you are thinking of them.

However, I also still subscribe to the old-fashion notion of romance. In a day and age when "talking" means "dating" I'd be dating everybody if that was the case. I talk a lot. So, I need something a bit bolder when it comes to letting my main squeeze know I love him. Whatever happened to grand romantic gestures?! I think they're still around. Anyway, I LOVE my husband and since my blog is the biggest (and most economical way--hey I'm not a millionaire) to tell him I love him, I thought I would. I love poetry. I love that it makes you dig deep. It makes you distill. It encourages you to share. Share goes!

In this busy world, I decided to sit down, stop everything, and write a poem just for my husband, George. He deserves a custom poem. Happy Valentine's Day, Love.

Disclaimer: If you don't like cheesy, turn away. If you don't like romance, turn away. If you're not a fan of poetry, this is not for you--go watch someone do something ill-advised on YouTube. Consider yourself warned:)

Tulips and Clockwork

Brushing past me—
a whisper.
Without words
not a sound. Stretching
with color
and confident strength.
An example
of how beautiful simple can be
calming
whispering to me
silently
filling me
up and up and away—
from dark and cold and gray.
Nature’s patient wisdom
has won the day.
Lines, clean but believable—arch.
A link
between here and heaven
keeps gears turning,
clasping together,
kissing deeply and then
arms wide letting go
to bide time
turning, churning so very far.
Then, one tic closer,
one toc beyond.
We go—
on and on and around.
Up and down. High and low. Full and empty. Waiting.
For that next whisper to brush beside us.
That next gear to pull us in, and cling desperately.
Even if—
just for a moment.

Cedric's Makes Room for Writers

posted Jan 21, 2019, 12:35 PM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Jan 21, 2019, 1:16 PM ]

Thanks to the Wakefield/Lynnfield Chamber of Commerce Breakfast at Brother's held on the first Thursday of each month and organized by Executive Director John Smolinsky, Colleen Getty of The Room to Write and Ted Dooling of Cedric’s Studio Meeting and Workspace were able to meet each other and discover a great opportunity for the two local initiatives to create a partnership that would benefit writers in and around Wakefield.

The Room to Write, founded in 2016 and receiving nonprofit determination in May of 2018, is steadily developing a solid community centered around the craft of writing. As a small organization The Room to Write is at its best when it partners with others in and around Wakefield. When asked about the vision for The Room to Write Director Colleen Getty explained, “We are working to grow into ‘the’ writing community and resource north of Boston. Without a designated space to call home or work we are limited in fulfilling one of the core components of our mission, which is ‘to provide those who want to write, love to write, and need to write with a quiet, communal and supportive space within which they are able to write.’” She continued, “This latest partnership is another step in the right direction for local writers.”

Since 1992 Boston Computer Scanning, Inc, “Bosscan,” has been providing document scanning and related business services to industries throughout New England. In 2015 Bosscan relocated its offices to Albion Street in Wakefield Center. The new location included a vacant retail space next door. Bosscan Owner Ted Dooling stated, “We decided to search for a use of that space that would utilize our small business experience to benefit the local community. We saw how the Open Workspace environments in Boston, Cambridge, Manhattan and beyond were catering to those in need of a comfortable, productive space to work, or simply to relax, away from home or the office. Many people feel more productive amongst creative and business-minded individuals.” The space, known as Cedric’s Meeting and Workspace, just recently opened for business.

Currently, members of The Room to Write have access to writing space two evenings a week, as well as the third Thursday of each month, thanks to the Boys & Girls Clubs of Stoneham and Wakefield. The Wakefield Club also provides space where The Room to Write’s youth Newspaper Club meets weekly in addition to the Open Studio Writing Workshops available to the homeschool community.

The latest partnership with Cedric’s Meeting and Workspace will make it possible for The Room to Write to offer workspace during the daytime hours and biweekly evening hours at a special discounted rate. Cedric’s is a clean, comfortable, peaceful space to tuck yourself in for a few hours and be productive away from everyday distractions. Writers who would like to take advantage of this partnership must have a membership with The Room to Write. The writers’ discount applies specifically to Cedric’s Megaplan over a six-month trial period.

“As a young nonprofit with limited resources we are grateful for our community partners and collaborators who help us find creative ways to fulfill our mission in supporting writers of all ages, abilities and means.” Getty commented. “This is a win-win for both TRtW and Cedric’s.”

For more information about becoming a member of The Room to Write click here. For more information about Cedric’s Meeting and Workspace, visit www.cedricsstudio.com or find them on facebook, twitter or Instagram.




Lucy Bound in Lyrics in the New Year

posted Dec 29, 2018, 7:38 AM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Dec 29, 2018, 7:38 AM ]

It's New Year's Resolution time!

Personally--I am hoping to immerse myself in another writing project of the YA or the Middle Grade manuscript variety in the new year. I still have to work out the actual resolution details, but I'm picturing some sort of strict schedule needing to be created and adhered to. My weakness: I'm not big on waking before dawn. Waking up far enough ahead of any one of my four children isn't a sure thing for getting work done, so I'm going to have to get a bit more strategic about other hours of the day. 

I am often asked, "What do you write?" As Director of TRtW, I am focused on--and truly enjoy--helping other writers, but I do actually write and actively send out my manuscripts, too. So, the answer to the "What do you write?" question is, "I have a draft of a YA novel and a couple of picture book manuscripts that I am circulating." 

In return for my efforts, as every writer has experienced, I received a steady stream of form-letter rejections over this past year. After a few of the rejections breaking form to relay to me that while they like the story the narration seems distant, I decided I needed some more detailed feedback, but don't have the money to throw at a professional editor and felt overwhelmed when I wandered onto Good Reads in search of some beta readers. It felt like the Wild West and so I backed out of those slatted, swinging saloon doors slowly and very shortly after I had entered them. And, then I remembered something!

When I attended Agent/Editor Day through SCBWI in 2017 I was introduced to an online platform called Swoon Reads. Since I am hoping to get some concrete feedback and constructive criticism from young adults, I thought it may be a bit less intimidating to start there since the manuscript I completed the first draft of this past January is a 57,000 word Young Adult novel. That means the target audience is ages 15 to 20+. Two weeks ago I uploaded LUCY BOUND IN LYRICS to Swoon Reads.

So, if you know any young adults or regular, old adults who like to read YA--feel free to point them to my manuscript, LUCY BOUND IN LYRICS, and encourage them to offer up some feedback so I can polish it up and publish it. Read Lucy Bound in Lyrics HERE. Here's the prologue to get your started:

LUCY BOUND IN LYRICS

C. T. Kavanagh (that's my maiden name:)


Prologue (yes--it's a poem:)

Love shows up in annoyingly ordinary ways. 

We have to really squint and concentrate 
to catch a glimpse of love slipping like sand 
into the crevices of our lives,
trying to hold us solidly in place. 

But, most of us just don't recognize each gritty, glistening grain 
as it drops down among the others, 
collectively forming that poor-excuse-for-a-foundation 
foundation that we all build our lives atop. 

We often miss the moment when a 
single speck of sand settles and 
silently offers its tragically inaudible “I love you.”

Book Bash

posted Dec 14, 2018, 1:08 PM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Dec 14, 2018, 1:10 PM ]

The Room to Write was bursting with excitement for our first-ever Book Bash. It was a Writers and Illustrators Meet & Greet with a twist towards the holiday shopping spirit. It gave our organization an opportunity to demonstrate to communities north of Boston what our mission is and how we intend to work toward fulfilling it. Readers had the opportunity to meet fifteen local writers and illustrators, to ask them about their books, and to personalize books with a message if it was a gift. The illustrators went one step further and even included an on-the-spot sketch along with their signatures. 


Young readers in attendance could complete an author/illustrator scavenger hunt offering them an excuse to go around and find out a little more about the human beings behind the books. It was a wonderful event to promote youth literacy and inspire the next generation of writers and illustrators.

The authors and illustrators in attendance selling and signing their books were Sally Chetwynd,  Lyn Wells ClarkEileen DoyonAlice GardnerLorena Mary HartElaine MagliaroJen MaloneGloria and Merrill MezikofskySarah Lynne ReulSusie RichCasey W. RobinsonDianna SanchezMarcia Strykowski & Dirk TiedeIt was a group with a good variety of genres in addition to a healthy mix of traditionally published and self-published authors and illustrators. Sally and Eileen represented adult fiction and non-fiction, while Jen, Susie, Dianna, Marcia and Dirk represented middle grade and young adult. Children's picture books had the biggest showing being very well represented by Lyn, Alice, Elaine, Gloria, Merrill, Sarah, Susie (both middle grade and picture books), and Casey. 

Since it was a meet and greet as well as a book signing--several others came by to enjoy community among fellow writers and illustrators. Some took the opportunity to introduce us to their books as well. Beth Costanzo came by with her Scuba Jack series of books for preschool and Kindergarten aged children and Brett Fleishman stopped by with his collection centered around poetry for kids.

Through The Room to Write's efforts to support local writers, we hope to support every step of the writing process--from motivating young and emerging writers to facilitating the process that gets words onto paper, then from polishing those words for an audience to helping books find their way into a reader's hands. The Room to Write's Book Bash had three points guiding it:
  • Meet & Greet: Writers and Illustrators of all genres and abilities can chat, network and build community
  • Support Local Art: Writing is art. Illustration is art. We want to help locals purchase local art.
  • TRtW Fundraiser: A percentage of the total sales were donated back to The Room to Write through B&N's Book Fair program. 
We are so grateful for all the talented writers and illustrators who came out to share their love of words and art with all of us and to connect with their readers personally. It really was a great group and an important reminder that there are many ways to support local artists of all mediums--that includes writing. In addition to absorbing words--visitors also got the rare treat of watching art happen right in front of them. Merrill Mezikofsky demonstrated how he turns a blank page into a sketch and then into a vivid piece of artwork.

If you didn't have time on Monday to get to the Peabody location of Barnes & Noble there still may be a few copies of the books signed by the authors available to purchase, but you'll have to hurry. Check the links to the names listed on the home page of this site to see if there are still copies available or call ahead. Thank you to The Room to Write's board members Roberta Hung, Jeanette Murray and Emily Seward who were in attendance as well as Barnes & Noble for hosting this event. 



"The Room" for The Room to Write

posted Nov 20, 2018, 11:57 AM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Nov 20, 2018, 11:59 AM ]

Did you type on one of the manual typewriters at Festival by the Lake? Have you tuned into an episode of The Journey of a Story series? Maybe you attended one of the quarterly Writers and Illustrators Meet & Greets or picked up a copy of The Club Chronicle @ Wakefield Boys & Girls Club from a budding journalist? Whatever form it took, chances are you have seen or heard about The Room to Write (TRtW) nonprofit organization with its passion for the written word and support for local writers and illustrators.

Looking ahead, The Room to Write, in collaboration with Barnes & Noble, is excited to demonstrate how it intends to fulfill its mission on Monday, December 10th starting at 6:30 PM. Local writers and illustrators, both traditionally and self-published, will gather at the Barnes & Noble in Peabody to showcase, sell and sign their books. This event will include three complementary elements:

  • ·         Writers and Illustrators Meet & Greet (socializing & networking opportunity)
  • ·         Pop-up Local Bookshop (local artists need visibility & support selling their art)
  • ·         Book Fair Fundraiser (a percentage of the sales will be donated back to The Room to Write)

“The more writers we meet, the more we learn about what writers need.” Founder and Director, Colleen Getty, is enthusiastic about the organization’s progress. “There are so many talented writers, published and unpublished, in the North of Boston area and surprisingly there is no designated, physical space North of Boston that is connecting local writers of all ages, genres and abilities with each other and with their audience in such deliberate and accessible ways as The Room to Write is doing.”

One of those deliberate ways has been The Journey of a Story series created and produced in collaboration with Wakefield Community Access Television (WCAT). The interviews are available on public access television and YouTube, then released on a monthly basis as individual podcasts through iTunes, Google Play and Stitcher. Ryan Boyd, Senior Producer and Editor for WCAT stated, “The Room to Write is a gift to local writers. Whether you’re just starting out or already published, Colleen has created a place for you to come and share your talents, gain advice, and (as we all experience) get some much-needed support. It is an invaluable source for writers and readers alike.”

In addition to WCAT, the Boys & Girls Clubs of Stoneham and Wakefield has been instrumental in their support of The Room to Write from the very beginning. It would have been a much bigger challenge to host weekly writing hours or to facilitate monthly critique group meetings without the physical space provided after Club hours by the Club. TRtW also sponsors a weekly Newspaper Club and just launched a homeschool program called Brown Bag Lunch & Lit with the Wakefield Club. The Boys & Girls Club has been an extremely generous and responsive community partner—and a great springboard for TRtW’s youth programming. Wakefield Club’s Director, Bethany Riley, explains, “We love working with The Room to Write. Part of our mission is to help our members to find their own voices and The Room to Write is an awesome organization that sets a great example of this for our kids. ”

This past spring The Room to Write became an official 501(c)(3) nonprofit with the mission being to provide those who want to write, love to write, and need to write with a quiet, communal and supportive space within which they are able to write.

Those who write are often spread out, isolated and creating on their own. The very young, the seniors and everybody in between should have access to the support, the community and the space to work the craft of writing in its many forms. Young people need to learn to communicate effectively and express themselves creatively. Our seniors need to know that their stories are worth telling and that there is a collective effort to share them and people who value them.

The Room to Write definitely has the “Write” part well established. Now it is time to set down some roots and locate “The Room” where writers North of Boston can connect and call home. 

For more information about TRtW's Book Bash on Monday, December 10th, visit our event page here.

Small Bites!

posted Nov 7, 2018, 5:17 AM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Nov 7, 2018, 5:18 AM ]

Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do and what to say—what is right. A body can wake up and feel a pressure pushing down on it before it even gets out of bed. It might be the fear of failure. It might be the realization of swimming in water that is over our head. Those two things are all in our minds. Well, not exactly—but they aren’t happening NOW. We are not failing at this exact moment. We are not drowning presently.

It's such a struggle to focus on the NOW. There are books written about it. There are, no doubt, people who make lots of money talking about it and coaching people to appreciate it. The reality of failure is real. People, ideas, efforts fail every day, but often the actual failure follows only after a long period of doubt, fear, and anxiety. 

If you are not failing today, you are not failing. If your head is above the water, you are not drowning. Concentrate on breathing and succeeding. Get your head out from below the water’s surface if it’s not there presently. I am writing this out loud to myself. 

“Take small bites!” Isn’t that what our parents always told us? Chew your food. Swallow it before taking the next bite lest you choke. That can be said of thoughts. Think small. Perhaps all this “global” thinking has gotten us overwhelmed. Zoom in—all the way so that all you see is your house and a few neighboring homes. 

Thinking too big leaves us to concentrate on our shoulders, arms, torso, legs and feet kicking below the surface. Sure—the majority of us are below the surface of the water, but the part that keeps us alive and that keeps the majority of us from sinking to the absolute bottom is our head and particularly our nose and mouth. 

It’s the breathing that counts. While that may only involve a small part of our whole body—we must concentrate on it. We must focus our mind on it. Concentrating on anything else will sow fear and doubt and encourage sinking—maybe even a “giving up” entirely attitude that can spread like a toxic rash.

So, breathe. Kick. Relax. Float. Breathe. Chin up. Spread your arms out. Breathe. Kick some more. Float a bit. Don’t think about sharks! Look at the birds, the sky, the sun. Don’t think about jelly fish. Smile and think happy thoughts and, above all, breathe. Think small. Think now.

Walk, Write and Wash Your Hands!

posted Oct 15, 2018, 10:44 AM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Oct 15, 2018, 5:10 PM ]

I am currently operating on a bit of a delay. Maybe you haven't noticed or maybe you have. Sometimes the change of seasons doesn't go as smoothly as we'd like. That's when it's most important to make time to nourish our body and our soul!

Today I went for a walk. I’m fortunate enough to have a lake nearby and to have the opportunity to walk around it—especially during this time of year. Here’s the problem: that’s the first time I’ve gone for a walk, without a destination as my main motivation, in a very long time. But, I had to do something. Fall is usually a time of great energy for me, but this year Fall has me falling behind. It was like the battery inside just up and quit on me, and I needed to get the jumper cables out—afraid, as I was, that I would hook them up wrong or that it wouldn’t revive anything. I needed to break out of this uncharacteristic, fall funk.

My brother passed away at the start of September. That was unexpected. That felt like jumper cables hooked up wrong. The hole left by burrowing grief created a sort-of catch basin that collected all sorts of germs along with the rainwater, so that this month greeted me with not-so-cute, acute conjunctivitis and then tonsillitis and strep throat decided it looked like an opportune time to jump in as well. Being sick is bad enough. Being highly contagious is down-right depressing.

The grief from my brother’s passing worked subtly below the surface—nearly invisible, while those bombastic and flamboyant germs were like bedazzled rock stars trashing a hotel room. Despite their two very different approaches, they have carried on quite consistently and I thought that maybe I should stop trying to fight back. I started to think that I’d better just sit back and shut up until those relentless thugs found someone else to bug. 

This past week my husband brought home a bright yellow book for me that he thought might be interesting or possibly helpful, titled: You are a Badass, which is what he believes me to be and assured me that he meant it in the best possible way. I’ll have to take his word for it, though I feel like I should be riding a horse or at least wearing chaps and sporting a long mustache to qualify for “Badass” status. 

I’m only 70 pages in, but the book made me think I needed to get out the jumper cables, ignore my constantly red and drippy eye (yeah, gross!), and just put on some sunglasses and walk the dang lake. I finished the Zpack I was prescribed, yesterday. The eye drops are nearly at their end. And, there’s something about fresh air, nature, and exercise that I felt might band together to become the perfect bouquet garni I need—that somethin’ somethin’ that forms the basis for soups and stews but that we don’t actually see and can’t quite place with our taste buds alone. 

So, we’ll see what happens. I took the walk. I beat the rain that started falling just as I was getting to my car. I’m writing this down—another thing I’ve been avoiding as I took shelter in my cozy, curmudgeons-only cave. Am I on top of the world? No. Am I six feet under? No. Am I floating somewhere in between and forcing myself to look through rose-colored glasses—even if I have to blot my drippy eye occasionally? Yes. 

I suppose floating is better than sinking. 

So, the two things I am going to try to do more consistently and may suggest to you if you find yourself in a funk: 
walk in nature for no reason other than to get some fresh air (and possibly some vitamin D:), and 
write what’s on your mind if for not other reason than to get some of that stuff off of your mind. 

Walk and write. Walk and write. Oh—and be sure to wash your hands!!



Whitelam Books Meet & Greet

posted Sep 18, 2018, 8:34 AM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Sep 18, 2018, 9:04 AM ]

While I don't usually do more than one blog post a month--some months are just more prolific for a variety of reasons (as you can see) and so I thought it was worth writing about the recent Writers and Illustrators Meet & Greet organized by The Room to Write:

Over twenty writers and illustrators joined The Room to Write at Whitelam Books located at 610 Main Street, Reading MA for the September installment of our quarterly Meet & Greet, which is a free and casual way to get together with other local writers and illustrators of all genres and levels--this time with the added bonus of meeting Liz Whitelam, owner of Whitelam Books. Attendees had the opportunity to ask questions, introduce published books, share the exciting details about books soon-to-be-released, as well as purchase a book or two to support the important role that independent book stores play for local authors and artists.


There was a near 50/50 ratio of writers and illustrators, which is always refreshing and a great opportunity for connecting and possibly sparking future collaborations. A couple of playwrights evened out the mix! Several published authors introduced their books to those in attendance: Susie Rich brought several of her children's books including the timely DUANE: Don't Underestimate Any Natural ElementsCarol Gordon Ekster held up her latest children's book You Know What?Elaine Magliaro brought Things To DoMarcia Strykowski had her latest tween novel Roller BoyGloria Mezikofsky brought her children's book A Perfectly Snowy Day AND her illustrator (who happens to be her talented husband, Mel:), Sally Chetwynd had a copy of her first novel, Bead of Sand, handy while announcing The Sturgeon's Dance was coming out in November, Hayley Barrett talked about her picture book, Babymoon, being released on April 2, 2019 and sharing the excited anticipation for a new release was Rajani LaRocca with her middle grade novel Middsummer's Mayhem set to release in the summer of 2019.


It was a wonderful event that included sweet treats and even sweeter conversations with some talented individuals. Those writers and illustrators in attendance who are new to the publishing world or who are trying to gather inspiration and information as they increase their creative output enjoyed a warm and welcoming atmosphere in which they were able to do so. Attendees came from as close as "down the street,"Reading, Wakefield, Melrose, North Reading, Peabody, and as far as Bradford, Concord, North Andover, Somerville and even Framingham.

This Meet & Greet was sponsored by The Room to Write and located in space being generously provided by Whitelam Books with thanks to local artist Ned Connors for the accompanying image. 


   

The Eulogy

posted Sep 9, 2018, 9:28 AM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Sep 9, 2018, 6:30 PM ]

On a cold January day in 1974 a baby boy was born and along with him joy was ushered into the lives of his young parents who had prayed and anticipated his arrival for years. Today that child, now a man, leaves sorrow and a hollow longing with each of us here today. Sorrow does not mean we have lost hope or lost faith—but it does mean we have lost a kindhearted coworker, an old friend, a new friend, a beloved nephew, a favorite cousin, a fun-loving uncle, a cherished Godson, a big brother, and that precious baby boy who arrived just 44 years ago.

Each of you has gotten to know my brother Patrick in so many different capacities, but no matter how you knew him or for how long, chances are one word stands out in your mind that describes him: FUNNY. This quote posted by Patrick will give you a glimpse into the flavor of his humor, it reads, “I aspire to mediocrity. Why shoot for the stars, when the ceiling is right there?” 

He was never afraid to laugh at himself—especially if it made the people around him have a good chuckle, too. He was the eternal host and went to great lengths to entertain a crowd and keep people happy. While Patrick was not a large fellow, he lived large, he loved large and he laughed—boy did he laugh. He made me laugh. He made you laugh. That was his gift to each of us to keep and to pay forward. 

But a life cannot live on laughter alone. He had a deeper side and it showed up in his amazing art. I’ll never forget the gigantic wooden three-dimensional star that he took home from a discarded display when he worked at the Disney store. In perfect, creative Patrick style he turned trash into treasure. The star got a coat of solid purple paint on every surface. On one side he painted Aladdin and Jasmine riding a magic carpet. On the other side he painted the words of a poem he wrote for the girl he was dating at the time. That was Patrick. He went out of his way for grand, romantic gestures, to create something special and to put his heart and soul into gifts for family and friends. He was a jolly old generous soul.

Patrick struggled in more recent years as his health continued to decline. He truly did suffer for so long and yet his sense of humor was never far from the surface. His love for art and music and a good movie continued to be mainstays in his life. When we moved from Melrose to Wakefield—my brothers showed up in their new jackets: Ryan rocking Michael Jackson’s Thriller threads while Patrick got his mean on in Michael Jackson’s Beat It style. My brothers learned fast that just a town away can be a world away when youth “fashion” is concerned. 

Then there was the time when we visited an aunt who was elderly and whose sight was failing. Patrick was going through his long-hair stage and refused to cut it thinking it paired well with the long, black trench coat he wore. When our aunt looked at each of us with her limited vision and then turned to Patrick and asked, “Now, who is this nice girl over here?” Patrick couldn’t help but laugh along with the rest of us who, of course, were in hysterics. 

Having a sense of humor is mandatory in our family and Patrick polished humor to high art. He could talk to a hole in the wall and be quite charming about it. His stories were like live performances that you hoped you’d get a seat for. Stories and conversations were only interrupted occasionally to dole out carefully crafted compliments and undercurrent insults in equal measure to friends and family alike—but the insults were always so hilarious and innocently accurate that you had to laugh, especially since he was sport enough to often include himself as a target. His compliments left the person on the receiving end, smiling and seeing themselves in a brighter light. Pat lived to please.

He hosted “Football Sundays” at our parent's house and then his house despite knowing next to nothing about football but seeing it as a good excuse to get together with his friend Carl and brother-in-law George among other friends and family who happened to be available on a Sunday afternoon to eat, drink and yell at the television. Patrick was never a big sports player or fan, but in addition to leveraging football as an excuse to socialize, he wanted something to share with his hockey-loving friends. So, he decided to route for the Tampa Bay Lightning. His sole reason for getting behind that team was because he liked their team colors the most. Isn’t that how everybody picks a team to cheer for? 

When you think of color and Patrick many of us think: purple. When we think purple, maybe some of us think Prince. Patrick loved music. He loved Prince. He had every album. Patrick and his long-time friend Carrie always found the time, the money and the tickets to go to concerts for everything from Tori Amos to Lindsey Buckingham and, of course, Prince. Pat loved music so much he was known to grab the occasional microphone and belt a few tunes out at karaoke. Maybe some of you remember his Michael McDonald phase. And, I can see why he liked him. It’s good stuff. Pat liked good stuff.

Patrick had an answer for everything even if it was not the answer you were hoping for. My mother loves to tell of the time when he was a young boy and his swim instructor picked him up out of the water while turning to the parents in the bleachers to ask, “Who does this one belong to?” My mother hesitantly raised her hand, to which the instructor replied, “He’s trying to bargain with me!” My brother had been trying to offer up alternative options in lieu of having to swim the entire length of the pool as he was being instructed to do. Yes—that was Patrick. There was nothing to do but laugh about it and maybe even be a little impressed—the kid had guts.

Speaking of guts—Patrick has always had a love of all things horror and Halloween. He even had a subscription to Fangoria magazine. That was a bit of a bummer for a sister who was scared of her own shadow—but that was a bonus for both of my brothers as they teamed up to scare me with every jump, scream, and bug-eyed expression always satisfyingly authentic. Pat loved theatrics and so Halloween was the perfect holiday for him with his artistic touches and unique ideas for every costume. Good times! Good sister-scaring times.

But--he’s gone now. What can we do? 

I don’t have the answers for you. There is no app for this. There is no quick fix or button to press. But, there is always faith and honesty to fall back on. There is the ability to be present, to feel uncomfortable, to act awkwardly. There is being human in all its wonderful, horrible intricacies. And so, I and my family thank you all for being present even if you feel uncomfortable and fear you’ll act awkwardly. We all do, but the love shines through. Death is the thing we all try to avoid at all costs and yet it is the one thing that can really shake us out of our stupor and remind us to live honestly and with faith. Faith is what is going to bring my family through this. Faith is the one thing we can rely on when we humans disappoint each other—as we always will—being human and all. 

So, we ask for your prayers and to share in our faith that our Holy Father and Mother have been just as eagerly anticipating the arrival of the same baby boy, now a man, who arrived here among us 44 years ago. We have to have faith that They love him as every father and mother love their own flesh and blood, accepting him into their forgiving and loving arms with gratitude that he has arrived to live out an eternity with them and with a welcoming crowd’s-worth of friends and relatives—my dad among them—in paradise. 

So, please pray. Pray for Patrick. No matter if you’ve never prayed before—pray for him. Pray for his soul and for each of us here today that we will grow to understand we are unconditionally loved no matter how we leave. Pat’s leaving fills us with sadness, but his arriving can fill us with solace if we let go and allow it.

I was telling my friend how I found several blank canvases in Patrick’s apartment. I took them home to hang as a poetic way to pay homage to the canvas that was my brother’s life that seems unfinished. The art he will no longer make. The joke he will no longer deliver. The generous spirt we will no longer be on the receiving end of. There was so much left, still, for him to create and accomplish. 

Yet, while I was seeing things through the lens of loss and emptiness, Emily pointed out the potential of a blank canvas and how it can also be seen as a symbol of hope. Potential. Endless possibilities. We don’t have to dwell on the unfinished. We can choose to focus, instead, on the hope and potential that each of us—with canvases yet to fill—have sitting right in front of us today and every day. We can choose to be inspired by my brother and to get out a brush and paint the canvas each of us has been given. Fill it up with color and meaning, passion and laughter, and most of all: love. 






So Long--Summer, so long.

posted Sep 4, 2018, 12:16 PM by Colleen Getty   [ updated Sep 4, 2018, 12:18 PM ]

Summer starts out like a poem with all the potential of a blank page and the indecision of where to start—what to cram in. So many favorites to highlight along with the subtleties that stitch it all together into one soothing sheet of life-sustaining respite. With excitement and anxious anticipation, we set out knowing it will end but ignoring that for now and hopefully tomorrow. Trying to focus on what is in front of us—something we’ve shoved aside too many times. 

Ahhhhh . . . we sink, sip, slip, sleep, and summer. We summer. It’s the only excuse other than being sick that we can cling to and to which people can only respond with an understanding nod of the head and a quick flit of the memory to their last vacation and how they tried to block out the world beyond and just focus on the world in front—directly in front—of them. They understand. 

We all need a break from “it all” sometimes. And so, in the absence of something funny or moving to prose on about, I have written a poem dedicated to a summer that seemed so long and yet now is waving so long to me with its gentle pre-autumnal breeze and sinking sun:

Summer, so long it seems 
as feet set foot in June.
Sun seeps into skin with early light, late light—
days so long.

Vacation, so long awaited and anticipated
butts in chairs, toes in sand, heads in clouds.
The deep breath needed 
for so long.

Memories treasured, tinted, told and traded—
taken out of storage to walk and
be rewritten.

Forever waits up, tapping its foot
for butts, toes and heads to return.
Meat and potatoes and apple pie.
Holiday cookies, new year, new snow, new spring shoots
and summer,
so long.

(This blog entry is dedicated to the letter “S” without which much of this could not have been written.😊)

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